How’s married life? – everyone.
I smile – “it’s really good you guys, I feel lucky. It’s just “life”. Does it, and will it, have it’s “plot twist” moments – of course.
A lot can happen in year. It does fly by. We flew all over. I even flew to Bali with my best friend, my husbands best friend, and he was so supportive of us all going, to go grow. That's my husband. Even in year one, making me love him even more.
We started a tradition to only give each other a card on 9.2 since we exchanged them on 9.2.17 and I maybe buy way too many cards in a year. Each year we’ll save them and in 100 years we’ll have 101 cards x 2. Mine for him is awesome - wait for it.
Doh. 2 cards. We made the rules so they are evolving
To answer my own question, “how’s married life” logically, I interviewed him, because I am only half of the "married life” and he is a really good sport, seriously I think he loved it. I may not have told "I'm I was going to write about it", until question 3. In which I wondered if he'd answer with something I'd rather forget. Aren’t you glad you didn’t marry me?
The joke is on me with all the questions. Ask and you shall receive...an answer out of left field!
When I work with private “goal-friends” my term for the incredible people who I work with one on one or remotely to realign their life path, career shifts, goals, or general personal, health, and overall wellbeing, there are times they do some interviewing, of themselves, and others in their life. The answers often blow them away. Again, jokes on me.
So…I practiced what I preach I suppose. Totally waited until 4:15 PM on 9.1.17 – procrastinated because of w/o a deadline, guess what happens. I too put it off until it's urgent, even it's important and fun.
Wedding- there was that. We did have one, a small in numbers, big in love, one. Jase wrote wine region tables, together we wrote notes, we had his Grandma read, I wore my own Grandma's pearls, a handmade veil by Jenny's Mom, just special things. Not a lot of things that are expected, but tried to stick to things we wanted.
From the outside looking in it was gorgeous, but 100% thanks to Jason’s parents, because we didn’t really want, or have the means for this sort of celebration. We suggested getting married with our parents at the vineyard, and simply being married. Enter Susanne at Crown Weddings, classiest planner ever, who does her thing to make Kimmel Vineyards come to La Jolla.
From this inside it was special. Every person there was in support of it, I believe that with all my heart.
I feel good that that was the goal – the marriage. The most beautiful part - the people who made fun and incredible to share this day with so many people we love. Not a week goes by I don’t look at a photo (thanks Joey and April - photo friends!) or replay our vows and am SO glad we were fortunate to have this day.
So Jase, (aka (JK) for this purpose), "can you mute that, please"? (Maybe not ideal on day 1 of college football – just informed clearly not my thing). Technically that's was just first question.
JK – sure sweets
What was your favorite memory this year as a husband and wife duo?
JK – do you mean like a trip, or in general?
SMK – (laughs), a question to my question. There is no wrong answer. I say a question and you say an answer. So... fave memory...
JK – Paris, together. (I smile - my fave city). We joined Jason's parents in Beaune after Paris - and they are great travel compaions.
What helped most with wedding planning?
JK – The wedding planner (super quick answer and laughs)
SMK – Lol! Her name is Susanne, and that's true! I was very hands-off, let her do her thing so I can do all my other things.
Also SMK - deciding what was important to each of us, and what we didn’t care as much about to not sweat it. Officiant, promises to his Grandmas, and having my Aunt and Uncle (58 years married) join our dance- I totally cared. Course #2 and the chairs - couldn't tell ya, still don't care much and I know it was beautiful
What you were most proud of?
JK – You, you were so composed
If any of our family or small group of friends want to hear our vows - it's what I loved! HERE you go.
SMK – Me, oh wow, thank you. He means the day of because I had some moments that we veered from why we were doing this in the first place. It became about other people and I dig my heels in pretty well if I feel strongly. I'm proud of me too, for marrying such a class act.
What’s the funniest thing time or thing we have had since 2013?
JK – when you had an adult accident (he is laughing out loud!) ** accept he didn't say it that nicely. Blowouts are what babies have Jase - for the record, we'll go with the adult accident.
SMK – gasp, Jase. Really? Not standing outside with wine on a chair in Paris? (I can’t not laugh). Which time? Running or the white work pants? (now regretting not saying, hey I think Ill share these questions).
What’s your biggest hope for year 2?
JK – to become parents
SMK – (smiles) that's good **I am not pregnant, kudos to everyone who has ever tried or been. I was going to say a puppy?
What’s your favorite thing we do repeatedly or tradition?
JK – Christmas decorations, but can we get a real tree this year
SMK – (what? Lol) Anyone need a skinny fake tree with white lights? Interviews on our anniversaries?
JK – swiffering (I knew this)
SMK - I will never-not (double negative I know) appreciate having my own washer and dryer - a dream! Also a dream - a husband who swiffers.
What do you remember most about 9.2.17 (wedding day)?
JK – Our first dance
SMK – Really? Wow! (surprised – but not buying it) I thought he’d say Melissa or 92 year Nana dancing it up. What was the song?
JK – (laughs) Suit and Tie by JT (I kinda love he knows Jusitn Timberlake by JT)
SMK – ha ha, kinda of, it was “In Case you Didn’t Know” and we turned into JT – and you were awesome and I know you did that for me!
For the record though, Nana at 92 (Kimmel Vineyards side, Jim's Mom) definately taught Jase all his moves...
Any tips for newlyweds since we’re oh so experienced now? (enter sarcasm here)
JK- put yourselves first, something we’re working on
SMK – get rid of his white shorts before you get married. (he laughs- phew)
I mean, reread or re-watch your vows often to remember why you get go have each day together and are you upholding your promises
I head upstairs so he can carry on watching college football and Seanni is coming over.
JK - Sweets don’t I get to ask one? (as I'm almost up the stairs, pretty standard to yell from room to room #amiright?)
SMK – Oh yes sure! What do you want to ask? (I’m waiting for “do we have any Siete chips?)
JK – What do you like most about me?
SMK – Just one thing? How much you have grown as man since I met you, your patience and our ability to find gratitude in things. And that you support my goals. And that you call me sweets. And…
JK – You’re right (he pipes in) – I think I have grown.
** not to self, keep is simple.
How cute is that – he’s my practice "goal-friend".
To Debby and Jim, my bonus parents, thank you for raising and sharing Jason. It is a daily life dream come true.
To anyone reading – thank you, being married is one day at a time, that turns into a life, kind of like life. I know I he shares my time, and love, with many, but it's the time of love of many that got me to him.
So tomorrow, think, sicne it's Labor Day, I'll "labor" away on my favorite job. Surf wife life...
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